Sei kuziva ushamwari "chepfu"?

Kana Ndikombei pachako neshamwari, une mukana wokurarama yakareba zvichienzaniswa vanhu vasina. Izvi vachibvumirana kudzokorora vatsvakurudzi Australia uye Harvard. A-gore 10 Australian pakudzidza akawana kuti vanhu vane shamwari, kurarama Paavhareji 22 muzana refu. Vashandi wepaHarvard University kuziva chinhu Zvakanyanya Kunaka Panguva Yepamuviri zvimiso mufaro. Maererano navo, vanofara vaya vedu vane shamwari kurarama mukati maira.

Zvisinei, ushamwari, sezvo rudo, pane marapirwo. shamwari yako yepamwoyo kuti upenyu kungaita mumwe guta kana kuti kuchinja maonero ako. Pane imwe nguva uchanzwa kuti havachakwanisi chivimbo maari uye anogona kuvazve pamwe murume parutivi pake. Communication ari kuramba isingawanzowanikwi, uye zvishoma nezvishoma kuparara. Dzimwe nguva kuduku matambudziko, kusanzwisisana uye kurwisana vakatsunga nokukurumidza, asi ushamwari chete kunosimba. Asi dzimwe nguva conflictual ukama anogona anovhundutsa bhero nokuda kuuya kuora. Ndinoziva sei kuti ushamwari yakashandurwa uye akava "chepfu"? Heino mimwe zviratidzo zvakajeka.

Mumwe Kakawanda akakukumbira nyasha

Friends basa ndechokubatsira munguva dzakaoma. Zvisinei, muenzaniso uyu haadi kufanana nomumwe-nzira mumugwagwa. Iwe akatanga kuumba pfungwa kuti uri mukoti, nyanzvi yokurapa pfungwa uye chikuru tsime rubatsiro rwemari? Zvadaro ngwarira. Uyu wakafanana chikwevaropa zvinodikamwa kunakidzwa mutsa wenyu. Sei kutsvaka nzira kubva mari dambudziko? Handiti, pane shamwari yechokwadi kuti kwete chete kukweretesa mari nguva, asi regai pakuti munhu dzosera. Kunze, kana munhu uyu ari zvakare novimba iwe, ibasa chinotokosha chezvinonhuwira ari zvekuvaka - inokosha nguva.

Haudi kusangana nomurume uyu, uye akatura befu paanobva

Zvakangotanga rakatanga nharo umo hapana aida bvumidza. Ipapo kunetsana vakatanga kuonekwa mune dzimwe nguva. Iwe vakatanga kuona kuti murume uyu akanga kudzivisa iwe. Kana zvinofambidzana musangano, iye anogara rinoreva basa. Funga nezvazvo, pane chinhu zvakajeka chakakanganisika. Uyewo yeuka kuti ushamwari - iri yokuzvidira.

Unoziva kutambura kubva unpredictability shamwari yake

Vamwe munhu "chepfu" ndiko saka nezvimwewo kuti kunoramba zvokudya kana kuisa vamwe nenzira netsa chinzvimbo. Kana uine bhizimisi zvakafanana, zvingava kuva refu kubva aenda zvachose. Uyu haasi kushandiswa kuchengeta shoko rake uye haatsvaki kutevedza mitoro izvi kwamuri. Kana iwe uri kugara kutarisira "mazano" itsva, izvi ine kunambwa psyche yenyu. Somugumisiro, shamwari dzako kugara vari kufunganya, kutya uye kuora mwoyo.

Waunowana zvisingafadzi zviratidzo

Kufara musangano vaimbova navo havana kukonzera chinhu asi unokurudzira, akanaka ndangariro uye kunyemwerera. Misangano vari Datenroku neshamwari yakanaka mutariri uye afare. Zvisinei, izvi hazvirevi kuti nguva dzose kuitika. Kana ukaona kuti pashure musangano musoro anotanga akatsemura kubva marwadzo, pane chirungurira, kuda kurutsa kana dumbu chinyamunhari chinorwadza, saka muviri pachawo kunoratidza "toxicity" murume. Kana pfungwa dzako anoramba kuona pachena, zvino muviri rinouya yakachengeteka mambure. Kana iwe pakupedzisira kuti ukama izvi zvakawanda zvakaipa pane zvakanaka?

Vamwe havana kuona kukanganisa kwavo pachavo

Shamwari yakanaka anotozvibvuma matambudziko avo, pane kuzvidzivirira. Kana, pavakanzwa kuti kutsoropodzwa wako aiwanzotaura unogumburwa, dambudziko riri ikoko. Kwete, hazvina zvakawanda wanda. Kuzvikudza kwake haabvumiri kuti kubvuma vakanga kururama.

Zvinovhiringidza chivimbo

Ushamwari asingakanganwiri unyengeri. Murume uya kamwe, acharamba kuita kudaro. Kuvimba anogona kugumisa kuti ukama.