Vakaroorana havadi kupiwa mhosva nokuda kweizvi: Zvinhu 9

Kutuka vanhu kwose kwose. Havana kurega ani zvake. Kunyange zvakadaro, zvavanonyanya kuda kukurukurirana ndezvivakaro. Verenga pamusoro kuti udzidze pamusoro pezvinhu 9 izvo mumwe murume nomudzimai vasingadi kuzvinzwa.

1. Nokuda kwekuti vanodana mumwe nomumwe mazita ekudana

Hapana chinhu chinoshamisa mukudaro kubva kumativi ose aya "mabhanki" uye "zvisimbiso" zvinoratidzika kunge zvisizvo uye zvisingaiti. Asi kudana mumwe nemumwe mazita akanaka uye anotapira zvakakosha kune vanoda, nokuti inogutsa zvinodiwa zvepfungwa zvevakaroorana. Ichokwadi, mahomoni ezvi mune mhinduro kupfuura iwe unogona kufunga.

Chimwe chikonzero nei tichida kuva munyoro kune wadikanwa, sekune mwana, ndeyokuti inoumba hukama huripo pakati pevadzidzi kana pakati peamai nemwana paanomumbundira. Izvi, sezvakadaro, zvinomutsazve manzwiro ehutano kubva pamucheto wekuona kwekuchinja kwehupenyu hwemuviri huri mumuviri. Uye chero zvakadaro, haisi nyaya yega yega kuti vaviri vakadanane sezvizvi, uye kwete?

2. Nokuda kwekuti ivo vemarudzi akasiyana

Vanhu vanoona vanhu vakasiyana-siyana uye vanotanga kuvabvunza mibvunzo yakadai sekuti "Pane here kusiyana kune mubhedha?" Uye "Wakambofunga here kuti vana vako vachaita sei?". Kana iwe uchiri kuona vanhu vemadzinza evanhu sechinhu chisingazivikanwi uye chishamiso, usatombofungidzira kuti iwe uri munhu anoshivirira. Sei iwe uchizvidya mwoyo pamusoro pezvinoitika mumubhedha wavo? Pakupedzisira, nguva yasvika yevanhu, kusarudza shamwari yeimwe marudzi, kwete kutarisana zuva nezuva "oh-yangu-iwe-saw-it" mumigwagwa.

3. Nokuda kwekuti ivo vari kuuya pamwe chete

Zvakare, iwe unofunga kuti iwe uri munhu anofambira mberi uye anofambira mberi, asi kana iwe uine taboo pawanano yevanhu, iwe wakakanganisa. Funga iwe pachako, ndezvipi zvinonzwisisika -kuuya nemumwe mutorwa wakakwana uye kusvika pakuzivana kana kuuya pamwe chete nemumwe musingazivi, asi mushure mokunge mawanana? Nyika iri kufamba mberi, hakuna munhu anonyadziswa nevepabonde musati waroora, asi sei zvino kugara pamwe chete kunoshamisa? Kana iwe uchida kutonga vanhu vari vaviri pavanopinda mairi, mira ikozvino. Iwe haugone kuchinja maonero ako nezvehupenyu hwako, asi iwe zvirokwazvo haufaniri kuisa kune vamwe.

4. Nokuda kwekuti ivo vose vanotora hotera, pokugara

Uye chii chinoshamisa? Ivo vari vaviri, uye vanoda imba yavo yakazara. Asi nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero, kana ivo vasina kuroora, vatungamiriri vemamwe mahotera vanovamanikidza kuti vapfuure nemumakumbo asingagumi emibvunzo kuti vaite bhuku. Asi izvo zvishoma zvekuremekedza zvinogona kupiwa kune vakaroorana kwete kuvabvunza kuti vave nechokwadi chehukama hwavo. Uye nei? Chikwangwani chewanano hachirevi chinhu.

Inoshuva chokwadi, asi muIndia mahotera haagoni kukwanisa kutora imba yevasikana vasati varoorana (kana ari mukomana nemusikana). Izvi hazvirevi zvisiri izvo chete, asi zvinoratidzawo kuti mune zita retsika vanhu vanoyambuka muganhu kuti vave tsika / tsika.

5. Nokuti vakange vane dzimwe hukama munguva yakapfuura

Vamwe vanhu (kunyanya, avo vari kutarisana nematambudziko ehupenyu hwehupenyu) vanoita sevanorarama chete nekucherechedzwa nevasingazivi. Zvose zvekusingaperi uye zvinokanganisa maziso zvinodzipandukira.

Mhedziso imwecheteyo: mutungamiri anotungamirira musikana mutsva manheru oga oga, uye musikana wacho anobva atumidzwa "nyore nyore". Nekunaka kwakadaro kweunyengeri kune chikamu chevanhu, zvinoshamisa kuti mavaro vanowanzopona. Yeuka chinhu chimwe chete: makuhwa akaipa kune munhu wose.

6. Kubata nemumwe munhu mukuru

Zvakanaka, vanhu vane makore akasiyana. Chii kubva kune icho? Yaiva kamwechete mutsara, kana pane kubvumirana pamwe chete muhukama? Vakuru vaviri vakasarudza kuti vanoda kushandisa nguva pamwechete (kwenguva pfupi kana kusingaperi) uye ivo vose vari vakuru zvekukwanisa kuverenga. Kunyanya, mutsauko uyu unobatanidzwa sei kune umwe kunze kweavo? Aya maitiro emagariro evanhu uye emhuri anoshamisika, mumutauro wakaipa weshoko. Nhau dzakanaka chete ndeyokuti hazviitiki kuvanhu vane njere kuti vatonge vamwe, kunyanya nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakashata zvakadaro.

7. Nokuda kwekuti basa ravo rinokosha kupfuura kuroorwa

Muzviitiko zvakawanda, shoko rokuti "vaviri" rinomira mumusangano wekubatana pedyo neshoko rokuti "kuroorana". Uye iyi ndiyo midzi yekugadzirisa zvivako. Takazosvika pakureva kuti vakaroorana vanoteerera kuzvidzwa kwekuti basa ravo rinokosha kupfuura chikwata. Nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero, vanhu vanofunga kuti vakaroorana vakanaka ndeyomumwe unofanirana kune mumwe nemumwe, kunyange kana yakanyanyisa. Panguva imwe chete, chaizvoizvo, zvakasiyana zvacho ndezvechokwadi: kupa mumwe nomumwe nzvimbo yake yakakosha zvikuru, uye nekubudirira kubatanidza hupenyu hwehupenzi uye hwehupenyu - hunonzwika zviri nani kudarika chinangwa chipi nechipi. Kusungirirwa hakuzoiti kuti murume nomudzimai vafare zvikuru, zvikuru kana ivo vose vasingadi uye ivo vose vari kufara.

8. Nokuti ivo vane shamwari dzevasikana

Cherechedza, ruzivo rwakakosha! Imwe shamwari yeshamwari uye mukomana mukomana ane pfungwa dzakasiyana. Kunyange zvakadaro, pane chimiro chevanhu vanoenderera mberi kuvananidza kune mumwe nemumwe. Asi, sezvavanotaura, kana ushamwari hwechikadzi husipo, uye ushamwari huri pakati pemusikana nemurume hahupo, neavo vangave neshamwari nevakadzi? Mhinduro yakajeka: nevaya vavanoda kuva shamwari, pasinei nevakadzi vavo.

Ushamwari humwe hukama hwehukama, kwete kureva chokwadi chokuti vanhu vasiri mhuka uye, neshamwari inoramba ichiita, havataridzi mitezo yese yevasikana kana vakomana sevanenge vari murume kana mudzimai. Uye kana iwe uchipa mhosva vanhu vakaroorana kuti mumwe nomumwe wavo ishamwari nomumwe munhu wevasikana, iwe ungati iwe haugone kuzvidzora uye unoona munhu wevasikana kana munhu semunhu, uye kwete sechinhu chepabonde here? Nokuti zvingave zvakanaka kwauri kuti iwe vanhu vataure chikamu chehupenyu hwako "iwe pachako."

9. Nokuti ivo vanovhura kuhukama kuburikidza nehutano hwemagariro evanhu

Iwe hausi iwe unoda kuva nehukama mumagariro evanhu? Zvakanaka, hauna. Asi izvi zvinoreva here kuti vamwe vanhu nekuda kwechikonzero ichi havafaniri kuva navo? Kana zvinhu zvose zvichivakodzera - zvakanaka kune vakaroorana. Uye nokuda kwenyika yose, iyo inofambidzana ne Facebook uye Zuckerberg mberi, zvakare.

Kuzivikanwa kuburikidza nehutano hwemagariro evanhu kana ukama huri kure hwakakodzera kune mumwe munhu, asi mumwe munhu haaiti, asi izvi zvatova munyika yedu, uye naizvozvo hakufaniri kuva nekupiwa mhosva. Yeuka huchenjeri hwekare: usatonga, saka iwe hauchazotongwa. Zvakanaka chaizvo mazano.

Neiko pamusoro pezvavo zvataurwa pamusoro apa iwe pachako wakaona? Kana, zvichida, une chimwe chinhu chingawedzerwa kune urongwa urwu? Waiva nechivi chekutaura kune mumwe munhu akadai here? Nyora nyaya dzako nemanzwiro mumashoko!